Chastity, tease and denial

Tease and denial is something that seems to work really well for us. T and D, along with keeping Paul in a chastity device is probably the basis of our Femdom dynamic. Because the reality is that we have lives to lead, and not every moment of every day involves a BDSM type interaction between us. We have kids, a business to run, clients to talk to and lives to get on with. But insisting that Paul wears a chastity device and teasing him on a regular basis ensures that the special connection that we have is never far from the surface.

Another nice little under the surface touch is that I make Paul wear women's panties most days. I brought him a pack of three panties from Primark and he does look very cute in them. He was a bit squirmy the first time that I had him put them on and model them for me, but now its quite normal for him and I think he has got used to it.

The chastity device he wears is made from stainless steel and locks behind his balls. I had him buy some special paint and spray it pink. It does look cute. 

In the evenings, after the kids have gone to bed we will sit together and watch TV. I will have Paul take off his trousers, pull down his panties and I will lightly play with his cock and balls through his CB, using my nails to stroke the shaft of his cock through the bars of the cage and tickling his balls with my fingernails. Or I may make him remove his CB so I have more access. Once he is all hot and bothered I will make him kneel on the floor, remove my socks and worship my feet. I can feel the passion in his kisses and I love the feeling of his warm breath on my feet. Sometimes while his down there, I will play with myself and have a lovely orgasm. Once I am done, its back in the cage for him and we snuggle on the sofa.

I have noticed that when I deny him orgasms and tease him like this, he seems to ooze devotion to me. I know it sounds funny, but I can virtually smell it coming out of the pores of his skin. There is a mushy-ness about him which I love. Especially as he is not the worlds most mush guy the in daily life.

I'm still getting used to this blog business. I will upload a couple of photos for you. I'm excited when I see that you have left a comment and when I can see that people all over the world are reading this blog. So please do leave a comment for me.

I also want to push my little business, so do visit my website and if you want to hear my voice there are some recordings on there of me reading out some sexy stories that we wrote together, based on the things that we enjoy doing together.

True tease and denial.

This is a little story that I wrote for a forum called Informed Consent, which is, sadly, closing down. I also used this as a script for my little website where I recorded myself reading it out. It's called "True tease and denial" and describes the type of thing that I love doing with Paul.

I hope you enjoy it and we both would love to see your comments.

True Tease and Denial.

 Of course the best way to make sure my subby hubby is properly teased is by tying him to our bed, removing his CB and working on his cock myself to take him to the edge as many times as I feel necessary before stopping and finding some other fun thing to do him like tickling him mercilessly until he can hardly breath or working my fingernails on the soles of his feet or making him lick the precum from my hands.

 Or I might just leave him there while I go about other business like taking phone calls or working in my home office. But this can be quite labour intensive for me so I like to have him tease himself sometimes. 

He hardly ever gets to touch his cock as he is always tied or handcuffed when the CB comes of for a TD session. But now and again I like to have him take himself right to the edge a few times in front of me. I have him strip and lie on the wooden floor by our sofa. 

Usually I have him wear something "pretty" like a pair of my stockings for this and always some clothes pegs on his nipples. I remove his CB and tell him to hold his cock. I sit on the sofa, remove my shoes and dangle my bare feet over and on his face. Then, when I tell him to and not before, he is allowed to wank. He is under strict orders to tell me when he is starting to get close. Once when I had him do this he failed to let me know he was close and had an unauthorised orgasm. I made his life a living hell for months after and he is very motivated to avoid this again. 

 I will have him take himself really close up to six times. I can tell how close he is getting because his balls swell and he oozes pre cum, together with the writhing. He is not allowed to ask or beg for release unless given permission so poor hubby just has to grit his teeth. When he tells me he is close I order him to remove his hands. He gets to lick my soles, something he does with frantic passion. I use my other foot to tease his swollen cock and balls. Usually I am so hot myself by this time that I have him kneel up with his head between my legs and take me to a wonderful, shattering orgasm. After I have come I have him kiss my toes and beg me for release while I compose myself again and bask in the glow. 

I love to hear and feel him grovelling and begging my feet for permission to come. Sometimes he cries. I almost feel sorry for him but he responds so well to strict treatment and a firm hand and behaves so attentively to me in the following days and weeks that to be lenient with him would do us both a dis-service. 

 Sometimes I will allow him one free minute. If he can come in that time, well fair enough. The only thing is he has to use only the middle finger of his left hand and has to wank like a girl; small light circles over the head of his cock.

 This is hysterical to watch, with him lying there in his stockings, covered in pre cum and sweat, wanking furiously with just one finger with his wrong arm. I will place both my bare feet firmly on his face and carefully count down from 60 making sure he gets one minute and not a second more. I don't let him have this privilege too often though as I don't want him to find a knack of making himself come like this too easily.

 When he has ejaculated using the "one finger wank" method he has confided later that it was still a very unsatisfying orgasm compared to when I grip his cock hard and allow him to come on his monthly release. Usually his minute runs out without him having a squirt. Then if his erection has not subsided after half an hour I put an ice pack on his "manhood" - a word that always brings a smile to my face- before popping him back in his CB. Then he spends the rest of the evening at my disposal, finishing his never ending list of chores or providing me with a human footstool while I watch TV or read or talk to girlfriends on the phone. Any obvious signs of displeasure on his part or whinging results in him having his swollen balls covered in Ralgex so usually he is quiet like a little mouse!

Sissy maid afternoon

While we were driving home from our business meeting yesterday I told Paul that he would be my sissy maid for the afternoon. When we got home, I had him strip and laid out a dress and some panties that I had selected for him. he looked so funny I had to laugh, especially as it gave him a hard on as he shamefully put the clothes on. Then I had him hoover our hallway, kitchen and living room and clean the kitchen surfaces. when he had finished I had him report back to me and I inspected his work. Actually, he did a really good job! 

When he had completed his tasks I had him lick my boots and say thank you, something that always gives me a tingle!

Then it was into his chastity cage for him. We have a gym at home and Paul asked if he could be excused the chastity device while he was working out. I said no, he had to wear it anyway. It stayed on for the rest of the night.

That evening, after our kids had gone to bed, I had Paul strip naked and worship my bare feet for about an hour, on his knees with his CB swinging about. then he lay on the floor at my feet on his back and I used his face as a footrest while I watched some TV. This always makes his cock bulge in its little cage!

We went upstairs to bed and I had a wonderful orgasm using my new dildo, which is a double ended one. I had Paul suck one end while I used the other. I had a lovely orgasm, then turned my attention to Paul. I stroked his cock and tickled his balls while he moaned. 

Paul doesn't get to come very often and I enjoy teasing him and making him go to sleep with a hard on.

Once he was leaking nicely with his cock bobbing about, I kissed him and told him to get some sleep.

Another lovely day!We have a small business that you can look at if you like. Its recorded phone lines. with my voice describing some of the things we get up to. We just about break even on this so I'd like it if you went and had a look/listen. Thanks

Very first post on my very first blog!

Hello! This is my first post. We are a real life couple, living near London in the UK.

I hope that you enjoy this blog. Its here to talk about our lives and discuss some of the stuff that we can't normally talk about, except with some very close and open minded friends.

We hope that you will drop us a line or leave comments.

I'm Zoe and my husband is Paul. At least, that's our names for the purposes of sharing stuff on this blog!

We have a strong dynamic in our relationship, a power exchange, if you will. some people call it a a Female Led Relationship, I've seen it called Loving Authority, Female Domination, Mistress/slave BDSM or just plain old Femdom.

What ever name you give it is not really the point. The fact of the matter is that we both love it when Paul is my man-slave and I am his demanding Goddess or Mistress.

We have been married for 13 years and the dynamic has been present for all of them. Over the last few years though we have both become more comfortable with our roles.

So how does this manifest itself in our real lives? Well, the reason this blog is called Real life femdom is because that's what we have. Its not dungeons and a strutting thigh booted dominatrix. Its something much more real. 

For instance.

I keep Paul in full time chastity. This means that he wears a locked chastity cage, when ever he is away from me. Its a constant reminder for him and I love holding the key.

Paul does a great deal of housework. We are lucky that we both work from home. Pauls chores are done naked (except for his CB) or in an outfit of my choosing. He scrubs, hoovers, cleans, folds and tidies.

When his chores are done, I have Paul lick my boots or kiss my toes and thank me for assigning him things to do.

I could go on, but hopefully for my first blog post, this should give you an idea.

I shall write some more over the next few weeks. Your repectful feedback is welcome.

www.zoedomme.com