My perspective

Hello everyone. Im Paul, Zoe's slut/slave/husband.

Not sure what to say really. Everything that has been written in this blog is true, although reading it sounds like we are having one huge femdom session, morning till night. Its not really like that. What is written here are a stream of highlights of activities that happen over a period of time.

Having said that there is a constant undercurrent of a femdom or Female led, relationship. This is expressed in lots of ways. The main way that I am aware that I live as a submissive husband is chastity. Zoe believes, and I do too, that enforced chastity and tease and denial are at the heart of a femdom marriage. I am not allowed to orgasm, to masturbate or even to be come fully erect without Zoe's full permission. This is enforced with the use of a metal chastity device which I put on in the mornings and have to wear all day until last thing at night. There are a few exceptions to this rule.

I train hard twice a week at a local boxing club. Boxing has been a part of my life for many years and the intensity of the training makes wearing a chastity device virtually impossible. Im skipping, constantly jumping around and I suppose in theory it would be possible to wear one but its hugely impractical. I get extremely hot training too and I think it would encourage irritation of my skin, something I have had issues with over the years.

I do not wear it at night most of the time unless I am away from home or Goddess wants to punish me or torment me. Again, in real life, 24/7 wear for me can result in rather nasty skin issues that take a while to recover and so we are careful to avoid this. The rest of the time though, during the day, every day, I am locked up.

Chastity and tease and denial seem to go together for us. Goddess will take every opportunity to remove the device and make me hard, while reminding me that she has control over my cock, my orgasms and when and how I am allowed to come. We have sex about three times a week and I get to have an orgasm about twice a month.

I am responsible for all the housework, cleaning etc and during the day (we work from home) I am at her disposal. I spend a lot of time cleaning, ironing and hoovering naked except for my CB and some panties. 

This is just scratching the surface of our relationship and if you have specific questions I am happy to answer them.

I hope this is interesting. As Zoe has said before, we are always happy to hear from people in a similar position to us so do comment or drop us a line.

Thanks

Paul

Paul's voice

I am considering allowing Paul to make some contributions to this blog. 

Your opinion is valuable to both of us, would you like to hear Paul's perspective on our Female led marriage?

Do let us know….

Reaching out to couples in the UK

We would love to make contact with other people who enjoy this female dominated or female led lifestyle.  So if you are UK based and you are a couple please do message me with some details. We are only looking to make friends and socialise until we know people very well though.

It has been a long while since I posted. The reality seems to be that it is easy not to make the effort to post if you have not done so in a while. It is hard to keep the momentum. Sharing parts of our lives like this and make it interesting to read does take effort.

We also had a little adult phoneline business with some recordings we had made. This had been running for well over 10 years, never made more than a trickle of return and this blog was designed to push people toward that. Unfortunately the trickle dried up and the site is now no longer running. Its another de-motivator for me to keep writing though. Perhaps I should write a book and offer it for sale.

Getting back to meeting others in the UK. We went to a local munch and were surprised and disappointed to see that 95% of the people attending were extremely obese! We both keep ourselves extremely fit, slim and healthy and although we don't expect everyone to be the same body shape as us, nor do we expect to see so many people 3, 4 and 5 stones overweight!  We find healthy, slimmer people who like exercise and eating sensibly more attractive. We are not "body fascist " we just prefer slimmer people, like ourselves, if we are to even consider being intimate.

Your comments, feedback and help are a motivator to keep writing this blog and sharing this intimate side of our lives so please do interact with us.

Bye for now x

An amazing youtube clip

The sight of leather clad, strutting "dominatrix's" on the internet does get rather tiresome to me. Its mostly badly acted, awkward rubbish. There is a real shortage of real people expressing real emotions of love and connection in this arena.

That is why I find this person delightful and interesting.

Hope that you like it.

Housework.

Well, its been a while. The summer is incredibly busy for us, our business needed a whole lot of attention, we had family from overseas visiting us for weeks on end, the kids are off school etc etc.

Sometimes it is hard to keep the momentum. Which is why the chastity device is so incredibly useful. Several times through the summer break Paul had begged me to be allowed out. I do love begging. It makes me hot. 

Paul came to me and said, could we please talk about the CB. It was giving him problems with irritation of the skin and soreness. I am a reasonable woman and said of course we can talk about it. When ever we do discuss this sort of thing though, I always like to sit on our sofa and have Paul strip and kneel in front of me. I make sure my feet are nice and bare and cross my legs so that my extended foot is in and around his face. I feel this is the right position for us to discuss our dynamic. While he makes his case I play with his face with my toes.

On this occasion, Paul asked if he could be released for a few days because the skin where the main ring goes was sore, and with the long drives and hot weather it was extremely uncomfortable for him, especially in the car.  We have to make some long journeys for business in the summer and it was this that was causing him the discomfort.

I listened carefully to him. I said to him that I did not think he was that desperate to be released. He repeated that he was desperate. I said that if he were desperate then he would be begging, and that he should beg to show his sincerity and also to please me as I liked seeing him begging at my feet.  I said that I would think about it while he begged.

So he dutifully took my foot in his hand, covered it in kisses while mumbling please Miss may I be released, please (kiss kiss) please. I told him how lovely it was, stroked his head a bit and let him beg and grovel for a few minutes.

Then I took a handful of his hair in my hand and twisted his face up and brought my face close to his. I said that I had thought about it, and the answer was.....no. No he may not be released. He could have 20 minutes with it off in a supervised shower to make sure he and the device was clean and to apply some healing creme and then it goes back on.

While he was there, on his knees at my feet, I thought this was the ideal moment to tell him that from now on, all of the housework and laundry was something that he should be taking care of. He already does all the yardwork and gardening and of course I set him chores around the house. But we have shared the day to day housework and the laundry and ironing. From now on though, he was to do it all. I was not going to designate any chores anymore, because he was going to do it all. Of course I can still tell him things I want doing especially.

You see being a slave is not all bells and whistles. Its a lot of ironing, mopping, hoovering and loading and unloading of washing machines. Just because you are good at kissing feet and arse does not make you a good submissive. 

I told him that any reluctance or complaints would be met with swift and harsh punishment that he would absolutely not enjoy. Not like the erotic spankings I give him several times a week. (When we don't have visitors or kids around that is!)

Whats the point of having a slave if you are doing the work yourself?

Tickling his balls

Paul has been kept in his chastity device for several days, and one night now. What I really like about these chastity devices is the ring around his balls pushes them out from his body and makes them looked full, tight and squeezed!

I have always preferred men who were not very hairy and so Paul has to shave his cock and balls completely clean, this just adds to the look of them popping out in front of him. And after only a week of chastity, teasing and denial they really do turn a shade of blue! Especially when I do things to deliberately make his cock try to get hard. Then he really does have blue balls. Its fun to see.

I particularly like this because instead of having a big scene, this type of fun can be done anytime when we are both working form home and the kids are away at school. I will call to him and, if I am feeling particularly wicked I will tell him to go and fetch our ultra realistic dildo. 

Some things Paul loves, like footworship, for instance and being my little maid. But the realistic dildo he hates. I, however, love thinking about him sucking cock so I will have him bring it from our stash of toys upstairs, bring it down to me where I am sitting at the computer and stand by my side. Then I will have him open up and pop the huge rubber cock in his mouth and put his hands on his head. I like to see that the cock is as far in his mouth as it will go. Preferably the balls of the rubber cock should be on his face but its so huge they just wobble about in front of his face.

Then I will undo his belt and push his trousers and panties down to his ankles, exposing his locked up cock and tight bluish balls. I tell him that he is to be still, keep his hands on his head, he must not move and he must be quiet. 

Then while I am working at my desk on the computer, I stop every once in a while and drag my fingernails up and down his upper thighs and over his bursting balls. I tickle them super lightly, gently stroking his balls with my fingertips and fingernails and revel in watching him shudder and struggle not to move. When I get a muffled moan from him I say wicked things to him like, if you don't keep quiet I will add another week to your chastity, or I will just say to him, keep still. 

His cock looks so funny as it desperately tries to get hard. The skin of it squishes through the bars and goes a deep dark shade of red and his balls go blue. 

I like this type of scene because it seems to have a massive impact on him, and all I have to do is just run a few fingers lightly over his caged balls.

I might keep him like this for 10 or 15 minutes or I may have him there for an hour. In the end the cock makes him drool! His own cock starts to drool too,  and a steady stream of pre-cum make a mess on the floor in front of him. That's easily fixed though, we just remove the rubber cock from his mouth and have him kneel down and lick it up.

When I'm all done with him, I will send him off to clean the kitchen or get back to his chores, safe in the knowledge that he can't play with his cock.

Tickling can be a very effective tool indeed.

Remember that you can hear my voice reading out stories about our fun times as a female led household on my website here.

Strong subs

The idea that submissive men are wimps is completely wrong in my opinion. Of course there are wimpy subs out there, but they are not the ones who attract me. Besides most of the submissive men I have personally met have been very strong in one way or another. Usually they are successful in what they have chosen to do for a career and often they work hard to keep themselves in shape, as does my own subby hubby Paul.

This is a picture of Paul.

He is not especially heavily muscled, yet he is lean and keeps his body fat to a healthy low level, as we all should.

He is the ideal shape, for me. In my opinion there are too many people out there who let themselves go. If you want to attract a dominant (or any other) woman into your life, getting yourself in shape is going to help. 

Unless you find a big beer gut attractive, regular high intensity exercise is the way to go along with a sensible diet that has lots of fish, not too many carbs and plenty of fruit and vegetables. Paul and I stick to this and we are both in great shape because of it. There's no fad with us, we call it the "No crap" diet and we eat like this 95% of the time and 5% we cut loose and eat whatever we like.

Submissive men need to stand out from the crowd if they are going to attract the type of women they want. One easy way to do this is to look in the best state of health, with a nice flat tummy and strong shoulders.

Lazy men turn me off, completely.