My perspective

Hello everyone. Im Paul, Zoe's slut/slave/husband.

Not sure what to say really. Everything that has been written in this blog is true, although reading it sounds like we are having one huge femdom session, morning till night. Its not really like that. What is written here are a stream of highlights of activities that happen over a period of time.

Having said that there is a constant undercurrent of a femdom or Female led, relationship. This is expressed in lots of ways. The main way that I am aware that I live as a submissive husband is chastity. Zoe believes, and I do too, that enforced chastity and tease and denial are at the heart of a femdom marriage. I am not allowed to orgasm, to masturbate or even to be come fully erect without Zoe's full permission. This is enforced with the use of a metal chastity device which I put on in the mornings and have to wear all day until last thing at night. There are a few exceptions to this rule.

I train hard twice a week at a local boxing club. Boxing has been a part of my life for many years and the intensity of the training makes wearing a chastity device virtually impossible. Im skipping, constantly jumping around and I suppose in theory it would be possible to wear one but its hugely impractical. I get extremely hot training too and I think it would encourage irritation of my skin, something I have had issues with over the years.

I do not wear it at night most of the time unless I am away from home or Goddess wants to punish me or torment me. Again, in real life, 24/7 wear for me can result in rather nasty skin issues that take a while to recover and so we are careful to avoid this. The rest of the time though, during the day, every day, I am locked up.

Chastity and tease and denial seem to go together for us. Goddess will take every opportunity to remove the device and make me hard, while reminding me that she has control over my cock, my orgasms and when and how I am allowed to come. We have sex about three times a week and I get to have an orgasm about twice a month.

I am responsible for all the housework, cleaning etc and during the day (we work from home) I am at her disposal. I spend a lot of time cleaning, ironing and hoovering naked except for my CB and some panties. 

This is just scratching the surface of our relationship and if you have specific questions I am happy to answer them.

I hope this is interesting. As Zoe has said before, we are always happy to hear from people in a similar position to us so do comment or drop us a line.

Thanks

Paul

Paul's voice

I am considering allowing Paul to make some contributions to this blog. 

Your opinion is valuable to both of us, would you like to hear Paul's perspective on our Female led marriage?

Do let us know….

Reaching out to couples in the UK

We would love to make contact with other people who enjoy this female dominated or female led lifestyle.  So if you are UK based and you are a couple please do message me with some details. We are only looking to make friends and socialise until we know people very well though.

It has been a long while since I posted. The reality seems to be that it is easy not to make the effort to post if you have not done so in a while. It is hard to keep the momentum. Sharing parts of our lives like this and make it interesting to read does take effort.

We also had a little adult phoneline business with some recordings we had made. This had been running for well over 10 years, never made more than a trickle of return and this blog was designed to push people toward that. Unfortunately the trickle dried up and the site is now no longer running. Its another de-motivator for me to keep writing though. Perhaps I should write a book and offer it for sale.

Getting back to meeting others in the UK. We went to a local munch and were surprised and disappointed to see that 95% of the people attending were extremely obese! We both keep ourselves extremely fit, slim and healthy and although we don't expect everyone to be the same body shape as us, nor do we expect to see so many people 3, 4 and 5 stones overweight!  We find healthy, slimmer people who like exercise and eating sensibly more attractive. We are not "body fascist " we just prefer slimmer people, like ourselves, if we are to even consider being intimate.

Your comments, feedback and help are a motivator to keep writing this blog and sharing this intimate side of our lives so please do interact with us.

Bye for now x